I never rode a roller coaster, I have extreme height phobia. I am this person who went to the military selection exam and crossed the easiest obstacle, even though I went to military school. It might be exciting for people. I never ever imagined riding it. Than I had neurodivergent kids. It’s like you wanted to travel to US and you reached Maldives. I mean you reached somewhere which you never planned to. But you love your kids and won’t want not to have them. For me I was super upset for about a month and than decided that I would start empowering him. I started with his names. Soon, he started recognising the a few more words. At 3.5, I decided it was time to potty train him. It took 6 months to fully train him. I started with using small word like pee.
I took him with me to the toilet and showed him why I visit it. I would have felt better if my husband did it. He simply told let’s wait till he talks. I wasn’t ready though, after 2 days I placed him in on the toilet seat. First day with a baby lid but he was quite big already for it. So, after one or 2 attempts, I decided to just place him on the regular one. And in 2 days he learnt it. He would not do it in the diaper anymore but for defecation he needed the diaper still. I was patient. It was still a big achievement still. I went to Bangladesh for my first visit. And my mom one day took away the diaper and taught him to seat and sat with him. He finally did it. But after that day he didn’t need help anymore. We still cleaned him after he used the toilet, though. But it was truly not as exhausting or time consuming or difficult as we thought. Once he knew what to do. He just did it. And specifically without any accident. I guess every other child has an accident. But mine never had it.
The 2nd one was super quick. He learnt to defecate himself. I don’t need to work much with him as since his birth he saw his brother visiting toilets.
My quick tips are
• Try to recognize the strengths and weaknesses of your child. For my first one, I broke down the steps. After he fulfilled one step 1, i assigned and taught him the next step. After doing them sometime, I entrusted him to do it independently. For the 2nd one, I taught him to do everything together. Putting the pants down to washing the hands.
• My kid didn’t have an accident, and that doesn’t mean your kid having one is the end of your life. It happens to the smartest kids, too.
• Before beginning, it seems truly difficult, unimaginable, and impossible.For my 2nd kid who is nonverbal, I just delayed it, imagining that he will not understand it. Or it will be a messy affair. Even though he was my second and I have done with it for the first one. And TADA, he was quicker than big brother.
• buy some cheap bulk deal underwear, and no worries if they get dirty. Just throw away. They are not more worthy than the life skill your kid is going to learn. If you are too scared of not leaving without diapers. You can simply buy this super cheap potty training underwear from Temu. I got it for my 2nd kid. He used it once to go out with papa. I washed and kept them to use for his little brother, with whom I will start training soon. This is my temu affiliate link thus if you buy from her i might receive a small amount of commission. https://temu.to/m/u4mkzuqnx2z
• I bought a potty for my 2nd one, which came super handy as most of the 6 oldest 2 needs to visit toilet the same time, and none of them like the guest toilet.
• Just take some time off from your schedule and pick up the courage to start it. I am sure your loving kid would surprise you.
Good luck from a fellow mom.